We love to compare. We compare countries, governments, states, cities, cultures, religions, companies, neighbors, families, parents, siblings, children, colleagues, and competitors, the list is endless. We drown ourselves in the ocean of comparison.
Why do human beings compare
low self-esteem
Lack of knowledge
Ignorance
lack of ability
too ambitious
feel good factor
boost one’s ego
let others down
What happens when we compare — it gives rise to
jealousy
stress
resentment
depression
tension
anxiety
loss of human touch
lack of community feeling
health issues
Some examples
Parents compare their children with each other thus giving rise to sibling rivalry. Bosses compare colleagues which gives rise to unhealthy competition rather than inspiration. Companies devalue other companies by launching unhealthy advertisements — showing how their products are better than others. Sadly, academics push people to compare. No matter how much we claim we do not compare, at the core of our heart, we know we do compare. Of course, biases, and egos are at the forefront leads to comparison
Media pushes people to compare — the beauty standards set for example. Who decides who is beautiful? Cosmetic companies use these gimmicks to earn market share, and profits. Which people fall prey to.
What will happen when we stop comparing
Take 100% responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, and actions
There is no blame
Live a happier life
We get inspired
Harmonious relationships are established
Productivity and effectiveness are improved
Learn to keep our ego in place
Learn to be mindful
We learn to mind our own business
Increased confidence and self-esteem
What can be done to not fall into the trap of ‘comparing’
Note- it is none of your business what people do in their life
Practice, practice and practice. Yes, not being able to compare requires self-awareness and practice
Focus on self-growth and development
Learn a skill and practice
Join like-minded groups that encourage and inspire
Read/ watch inspiring stories
Focus on your fitness, meditate
Do not gossip, back-bite, or devalue
Stop criticizing and condemning
So how we will know we are better than others? We do not need to compare with others to be better ourselves. We can set our standards and boundaries of excellence.
With gratitude
Dr. Sonali Wagle
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